Unfortunately, many couples break up at some stage in their relationship. It’s good if the decision was mutual, but what should a woman do if she didn’t want to break up and wasn’t ready to lose her beloved? What should she do if her boyfriend left her?
If a woman is sure she wants to get her ex-boyfriend back, she should act thoughtfully. In reality, this isn’t as difficult as it might seem, especially if the man still has feelings.
There was likely a reason for the breakup, which will still exist in the relationship. Doing the same things will yield the same results. Therefore, distancing oneself from the partner is the only right decision.
To win a man back, a well-structured action plan is needed. Only with a clear plan can one achieve their goal. Deviating from the plan will lead to habitual behavior, ruining the chances of getting the ex back.
Let’s discuss the Three Steps to Win Back Your Ex-Boyfriend:
1. “Say No to Contact”
The most important rule to follow is to cut off all contact. What does this mean? The woman must completely stop communicating with the man: no texting, calling, seeking meetings, replying to his calls or texts, and no liking his photos on social media.
This step is quite challenging, but it is crucial not to break it. The woman must overcome her urge to clarify everything immediately and “put all the dots over the i’s.”
Initially, you need to manage your emotions and suppress the desire to communicate. Understand that acting on your emotions now won’t lead to anything good.
Don’t think that one text won’t hurt. It will. If you want to win him back, you must not break this rule.
If your ex contacts you, briefly tell him you need some time alone.
How long should you avoid contact?
Typically, it takes about a month for a person to break a bad habit or reflect on their actions. Interestingly, it takes about the same amount of time for a woman to recover after a relationship.
The first few days will be very difficult, but it will get easier each day. In a few weeks, you will be able to completely overcome your dependence on this person.
What if you break the rule?
If you slip and break the first rule, do not try to clarify things further or salvage the situation. The only correct course of action is to restart the no-contact period.
What if you meet accidentally?
It’s best to avoid places where you might run into him. If you do meet by chance, remain calm and positive. Avoid discussing the relationship and don’t fall for any potential provocations. End the conversation as quickly as possible and leave.
Fear of him finding someone else during the break
Right now, this should be the least of your concerns. Use the no-contact period to boost your self-esteem, understand yourself, and realize that life without him isn’t so bad.
Focus on your own life, independent of any person. Discover what interests you and what can make you happy. His actions should not affect your mental state.
Remember that men don’t like clingy women or easy prey. You need to act based on their instincts.
2. Work on Yourself
During the distancing period, focus on yourself, your appearance, mental state, talents, and interests. Learning to manage negative emotions will improve how you feel and how you look.
This is the perfect time to get into sports, yoga, dancing, or swimming. You can also start learning English, knitting, or sewing.
3. Start Communication from a Clean Slate
Once the first two stages are complete, you can start communicating from a fresh perspective. All the bad in the relationship is forgotten, and the man has missed you and realized your importance in his life.
At this point, it doesn’t matter how the communication starts or who initiates it. Your life no longer revolves around him; it is filled with other important activities and concerns.
Observe your partner from a distance. Enjoy the moment. Even if things go wrong in the relationship again, it will be less traumatic for you.